I felt that I should write about this because I have seen people suffering because they are grumbling (or murmuring). Recently, I observed that my 1 year-old son has this habit of beating anyone who is crying. I wondered why he should be doing that. It was as if I observed an experimental validation of a hypothesis I set up in the past that- that anyone who is grumbling will be made to suffer more instead of being consoled. There were basis to this.
Over two years ago, I noticed a pattern in my workplace. Before someone resigned or got sacked, most of them suddenly started complaining, grumbling and being somehow dissatisfied. Next, they would get into a conflict and they will resign or be asked to go. I saw many people follow this pattern, so many that I was able to observe this pattern. I was concerned because some of the folks that left were good at their work and I would not wish that they go.
Because I felt that there was a clear pattern, I hypothesised that murmuring or grumbling predisposes a person to problems at work. Later, I extended it to cover problems in relationships. One day, I was studying the scriptures and I came across a passage that opened my eyes to why grumbling should be avoided like a plague.
“How long shall I bear with this evil congregation who are grumbling against Me? I have heard the complaints of the sons of Israel, which they are making against Me. “Say to them, ‘As I live,’ says the LORD, ‘just as you have spoken in My hearing, so I will surely do to you; your corpses will fall in this wilderness, even all your numbered men, according to your complete number from twenty years old and upward, who have grumbled against Me (Numbers 14:27-29).
After understanding the implications of the passage, I decided never to murmur or grumble again. If I have any issue at all, I will be proactive or even assertive to express my concerns, but I will not murmur.
The aim is to highlight that grumbling casts shadows over people that grumble and that shadow will bring the kind of horrible events that happen in the dark. We must always be radiant and live on the happy side of life. If you have any challenge at workplace or in any relationship, use communication to resolve it. Do not grumble, please.